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 Harry_Ba11sach
cannoisseur
Registered: 04/20/08
Posts: 11,753
Loc: Nepal 
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 Re: Need some serious marital advice  [Re: Hendershot]
#560139 - 05/31/11 09:42 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Hendershot said:
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Harry_Ba11sach said:
Don't be an asshole, asshole. If you wife loves smoking but she's quitting for the baby, then you should be a supportive, loving husband and quit also. Not because it interferes, not because it's illegal, but because being pregnant fucking sucks and she's going to need all the emotional support she can get from you. Tell her you'll quit for 9 months while she's baking the little cake, but you won't quit forever. And then tell her to move your family to somewhere where it's not so illegal.
Wow.. asshole?
First, she doesn't love smoking. She's an occasional smoker. Second, she gets plenty of support from me; I dote on this woman. I love her very much and show her daily. In fact, I love her so much, that if the situation were reversed I wouldn't make her quit something she loved just because I couldn't do it. That's pretty fucking selfish imo..
Aand lastly... When she's further along, who do you think will be doing ALL the housework, yardwork, shopping, EVERYTHING? Me. I'm not bitching about it; it's my job, we're a team, that's my part and I'm happy to do it. We both have different parts to play and it should be give and take. Everything can't be equal for each of us.
I was doing the tough love thing, but good answer 
Honestly, I think she's just worried about the legality, see if she'd be willing to relocate somewhere where it's legal. Come to Colorado and your kid can grow up an outdoorsy badass like me.
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 Steve Buscemi
Registered: 11/15/08
Posts: 2,167
Last seen: 11 years, 7 months
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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
#560141 - 05/31/11 10:00 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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DSHSB..........duh.
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Hendershot
Shapeshifter
Registered: 07/25/10
Posts: 676
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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Steve Buscemi]
#560148 - 05/31/11 10:28 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Steve Buscemi said:
DSHSB..........duh.
Steve, the thread said SERIOUS advice.
I'll use lube.
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Tank333
Psychotic Hippie
Registered: 08/19/10
Posts: 1,241
Loc: Washington
Last seen: 4 years, 3 months
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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
#560161 - 05/31/11 11:04 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Honestly man, I would just be upfront, and tell her you're not gonna quit unless you get caught. In the 30+ years you've been smoking and growing you've never once been caught?? Take that to mean that you're careful enough to keep from getting in trouble.
Honestly, if she can't see the logic there, then she's really not being rational and I can't help ya after that... well, she's already not being rational, imo, but sometimes if you present the situation logically, they'll see the light... this is why I'm glad my girl's a patient just like me! Lol.
Move to a legal state, bro. Then you can grow outdoors or inside without worries of arrest and jail-time!
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SpaceMonkey
Mind Pilot
Registered: 02/09/09
Posts: 3,471
Loc: Hawaiian Islands
Last seen: 3 years, 7 months
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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Tank333] 1
#560254 - 05/31/11 01:55 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Harry Nut sack had it right I think. I believe her concern ia the legality and possibility of getting caught and maybe loosing the baby because of it. Child protective services could be involved if ever u get raided. Or even maybe just the thought of you being arrested and going to jail and not being there for her because of it? Woman go through some wild changes during pregnancy, mentally and physically. Not sure how to handle it though? Maybe just inform her that you will keep it long away from her and the house? That worked for me, but who knows.
Congratulations on having a baby btw!
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Hendershot
Shapeshifter
Registered: 07/25/10
Posts: 676
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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: SpaceMonkey]
#561493 - 06/03/11 07:22 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, we worked it out... I'm gonna pretend I quit, and she's gonna pretend not to notice when I come back in the house all chink eyed and cheezin..
I think the argument the other day can be more attributed to hormones than anything, I just can't say that to HER. 
Thanks everyone for your suggestions and congratulations.
Maybe I'll start a baby grow log. NOT!!
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Hendershot
Shapeshifter
Registered: 07/25/10
Posts: 676
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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
#561494 - 06/03/11 07:25 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Oh yeah, I also agreed that this will be my last grow. At least for awhile, until the perfect set of circumstances presents itself...
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