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Need some serious marital advice
    #560096 - 05/31/11 10:30 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Okay, so I got married a year ago. When we met she was an occasional smoker, but she knew I smoke just about every day.

She's pregnant now, due in . so she can't smoke. Now she's on my ass to quit. For good.
We got in a huge fight yesterday about it, and now I'm at a serious impasse...cuz I'm not going to quit. I've been smoking for 30 years; it's part of what makes me me.
She agrees that it doesn't interfere with my life; I work hard to support us and I treat her like a queen...
During this "exchange", I broke down every single argument she had with logic..except one. She said " Bottom line is it's illegal, and if you cared about me and the baby you wouldn't take the chance of going to jail."
What the hell do I say to that?
I have never been in trouble for weed, and am always careful about when and where I partake.
So here's the question: do I mollify her and say Okay I quit, and then continue to catch the occasional buzz anyway? Or do I be straight up and say No way, I'm not quitting, you can like it or lump it.
Add this to the mix. 2/3 of her family is in law enforcement, so if it comes out to her family I am the bad guy no matter what.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560100 - 05/31/11 10:44 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

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treat her like a queen bitch



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As long as you dont smoke around her i.e. exposing her to the smoke and be extra careful about your shit I'd say keep on smoking. Just be twice as careful.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560101 - 05/31/11 10:45 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Eesh thats tough. I thought it was for the baby's health. But she has a point. I dont think quitting for good is the answer though.  Maybe just while the baby is a newborn you could cut back to help out with it (2 am feedings and all that) but congrats for the new addition to your family :congrats:


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560102 - 05/31/11 10:46 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Do you have any priors that could result in you being in the slammer for extended periods of time?


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560103 - 05/31/11 10:46 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

IMO honesty is the best policy.

Just cut down a bit and try to not do it right in front of her.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: RasJeph]
    #560104 - 05/31/11 10:48 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: DungenessDank]
    #560108 - 05/31/11 10:53 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

@ Dungeness- I have one drug charge on my record from 16 years ago. For PCP.:facepalm:


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560110 - 05/31/11 10:56 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

:lol:

Well just tell her if you get caught you will quit. Other wise just get high where she won't be able to nag at you.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: DungenessDank]
    #560115 - 05/31/11 11:02 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

I hear ya.. I just fucking resent having to hide what I consider a harmless indulgence. I think it's basically an issue only because she can't partake.
Oh yeah, she has no problem with my guerrilla activities because "we could use the money" :wtf:
I didn't point out the hypocrisy of that statement, on the chance that she may amend her answer..


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560118 - 05/31/11 11:05 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Don't be an asshole, asshole. If you wife loves smoking but she's quitting for the baby, then you should be a supportive, loving husband and quit also. Not because it interferes, not because it's illegal, but because being pregnant fucking sucks and she's going to need all the emotional support she can get from you. Tell her you'll quit for 9 months while she's baking the little cake, but you won't quit forever. And then tell her to move your family to somewhere where it's not so illegal.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560120 - 05/31/11 11:07 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

So you can't smoke weed when you are pregnant? I always thought it was just alcohol. Odd.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: smurf_master]
    #560121 - 05/31/11 11:08 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Shouldn't smoke anything if you want your kid to come out asthma-free


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: DungenessDank]
    #560122 - 05/31/11 11:09 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Well, what about in edible form?

I'm not a women but I'd think it would help with the nausea and such.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560123 - 05/31/11 11:10 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Move interstate.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: smurf_master]
    #560127 - 05/31/11 11:22 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

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smurf_master said:
Well, what about in edible form?

I'm not a women but I'd think it would help with the nausea and such.



:ilold: cannabinoids have no place in the developing brain. In some cases though cannabinoids could help with the very early stages in implantation of the embryo. If the levels of the endogenous cannabinoid anandamide are low then weed will help but if they're normal or high then it will prevent pregnancy.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Harry_Ba11sach]
    #560130 - 05/31/11 11:30 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

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Harry_Ba11sach said:
Don't be an asshole, asshole. If you wife loves smoking but she's quitting for the baby, then you should be a supportive, loving husband and quit also. Not because it interferes, not because it's illegal, but because being pregnant fucking sucks and she's going to need all the emotional support she can get from you. Tell her you'll quit for 9 months while she's baking the little cake, but you won't quit forever. And then tell her to move your family to somewhere where it's not so illegal.




Wow.. asshole?
First, she doesn't love smoking. She's an occasional smoker. Second, she gets plenty of support from me; I dote on this woman. I love her very much and show her daily. In fact, I love her so much, that if the situation were reversed I wouldn't make her quit something she loved just because I couldn't do it. That's pretty fucking selfish imo..
Aand lastly... When she's further along, who do you think will be doing ALL the housework, yardwork, shopping, EVERYTHING? Me. I'm not bitching about it; it's my job, we're a team, that's my part and I'm happy to do it. We both have different parts to play and it should be give and take. Everything can't be equal for each of us.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: Hendershot]
    #560131 - 05/31/11 11:31 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Women are spoiled.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: smurf_master]
    #560132 - 05/31/11 11:33 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

No. we're not.


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: BlueBerry_Swisher]
    #560133 - 05/31/11 11:34 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

Pffffffff


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Re: Need some serious marital advice [Re: smurf_master]
    #560137 - 05/31/11 11:37 AM (5 years, 6 months ago)

some are. Some boys are spoiled. Thats how life is.


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